When I met Mark, my children’s father, we were happy at first. After James (6) was born, Mark became very controlling and wouldn’t let me look after our baby properly. He had violent mood swings, particularly when he’d been drinking.
Things got worse when Lucy (4) was born but I didn’t know what to do or who to go to for help. Where could I go with two young children?
The police and social services became involved and the children were put on the Child Protection Register. I was terrified I would lose them but I still loved Mark and hoped he would change. Eventually social services said I had to choose – if I decided to stay with Mark my children were at risk of being taken into care.
In 2014 I found SignHealth’s DeafHope. They were brilliant and helped me move to a refuge with the children. DeafHope assured me they would support me through everything. And they did!
“DeafHope assured me they would support me through everything. And they did!”
Although we were in the refuge for nearly a year, we were safe and settled. Now we have our lovely flat and the children are settled into schools. My key worker still visits from time to time to catch up.
The DeafHope survivor workshops were great. They have helped me understand more about what happened to me and how that affects my children, they’ve also helped improve my confidence and assertiveness. There is no other service that can give you the same support in British Sign Language.
If you are suffering like me, don’t give up – remember you DO have a choice and can change your life. DeafHope will support you.